Ask, Don't Tell

Everyone has a natural desire for autonomy and independence. Constantly being told what to do can make people with ADHD feel like they're not in control of their own actions or decisions, leading to frustration and resistance. When asking a child with ADHD to do something, it's essential to considering their unique needs and challenges. 

Here are some strategies you can use to help your child manage their morning routine:

1. Break Tasks into Manageable Steps: ADHD children may become overwhelmed by tasks, especially getting ready for school all at once. Break down the request into smaller, more manageable steps. 

Example: First - brush teeth, Second - get dressed, etc. 

2. Set Clear Expectations: Clearly communicate your expectations for the morning routine. Let the child know what time they need to be ready to leave for school and what tasks they are responsible for completing before then.

3. Provide Reminders: ADHD children may struggle with time management and transitioning between tasks. Use timers, alarms, or verbal reminders to help them stay on track and prompt them to move on to the next task when necessary.

4. Offer Choices: Give your child some control over their routine by offering choices. This can help reduce resistance and empower your child to take ownership of their morning routine.

Example:  "Do you want to wear your purple shirt or red shirt?"

" Do you want to shower now or after breakfast?"

" Do you want a cereal or toast for breakfast?"

"Do you want a hug or high five before your go?"

5. Use Positive Reinforcement: Offer praise and encouragement as your child completes each step of their routine. Positive reinforcement can help motivate them to stay focused and on tasks.

6. Minimize Distractions: Create a calm and organized environment to minimize distractions. Limit screen time, keep clutter to a minimum, and establish a consistent routine to help your child stay focused.

7. Model the Behavior: Children are observant and learn by example; model the behavior you want to see. Demonstrate the steps of the morning routine yourself and offer assistance and guidance as needed.

8. Be Patient and Flexible: children with ADHD may need extra time and support to complete their morning routine. Be patient, understanding, and flexible, and be prepared to make adjustments as needed based on your child's individual needs.

By using these strategies, you can help make the morning routine more manageable for your child and set them up for a successful day at school.